Life With A Friesian Dream

Winter happiness and Friesian power

In collaboration with Horze

Finally we got some real snow! I have waited not so patiently since November, and when the winter wonderland suddenly appeared outside my window, the first thing I did was to head to Batman. Playing with the horse in the snow is literally the best thing ever. And Batman did not hesitate and gladly joined me in the field for some winter fun!

Today was also the perfect day to show you my new breeches and sweater from Horze. I finally ordered the Desiree-breeches, which you have probably seen on my blog before in a wish list or ten! My last pair of quality breeches from Horze got eaten by my rabbit last winter(!), and I have worn jeans in the stable ever since! I never wear them out, my rabbit eats them. True story. #lifewithrabbit

What I look for when I shop breeches:
– Pockets large enough to fit an iPhone or 4 carrots, also when you sit on the horse
– High quality fabric, a flexible feel and elegant details
– A good fit around the ankle
– Must be super comfortable during riding, walking, running and when sitting in a car

It felt amazing to finally ride in the Crescendo Desiree-breeches, and what I love most about them is the high waist and lovely details. I can’t stand riding, or walking, in breeches you can’t feel comfy moving around in. When I’m in the stable, I’m running, jumping, climbing and even crawling on the ground. I need a pair of breeches you never need to adjust. What. So. Ever.

So with a high waist, perfect fit, stretchy fabric and decorative silicone knee patch, the Desiree-breeches is by far the most beautiful and the most comfortable pair of breeches I have ever worn. I could easily wear them outside the stable because of the stylish look.

My lovely new sweater is the warm and comfy Reykur Fleece, also from Horze. I have many old fleece sweaters in XXL, looking more like a tent really, and wanted something a bit more feminine and practical to wear while riding. The Reykur fleece looks great on, it’s got large pockets with space for iPhones and carrots, and during the session with Batman in the field, I did actually not freeze!

Enough outfit-talk, enjoy the sight of my incredible, playful, proud and gorgeous Batman!

A huge thanks to Stina for today’s amazing photos, I’m forever grateful.

Peace, love and Friesian hugs,
Batman & Matilde


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How I taught Batman all his tricks

Hi guys! Today I will bring up a topic you have asked me about for years. How I taught Batman tricks!

I started to teach Batman to lie down on cue in 2012/2013, and that was his first “real” trick. With Batman, I prefer to use positive reinforcement in trick training. That means that I praise him when he takes one step in right direction. I praise every single attempt, and if he is confused, I’m not clear enough, and we simply take a break. I won’t push, punish or force him to do the wanted behavior. If I want to teach my horse to walk after a ball, I first praise the horse when the horse looks at the ball. If I want to teach my horse to look away from the treat, I praise the horse when it turns its head in another direction. If I want to teach my horse to pick up a whip, I praise the horse when he touches the whip. Simple as that. It requires patience, correct timing and a basic relationship with your horse from the ground. You can use positive reinforcement on all horses, turtles, whales, eagles, boyfriends and squirrels.

Read more about positive reinforcement and horses on

Trick training certanly made Batman a prouder, more willing, happier and a more curious horse. He became more outgoing and fun to be around. He started to show a different side of his personality, the silly, fun Batman I love so much suddenly appeared for real. Everything is easier to teach a horse that is eager to learn, and finds training fun. And what is fun training? Training where you get challenges, and praise when you understand the task, training completely free from punishment and fear. Teamwork, happy moments, new experiences, and the chance to spend time together and have fun from the ground.

Please keep in mind that I’m not a professional or a trainer, and this blog post is based on my personal experience with Batman. I highly recommend you to seek help from a trainer, simply to learn the basics of timing, equine psychology and behaviour when it comes to clicker training. I recommend to find a trainer near you.

I remember so well that I loved playing with my dog when I was younger; we had so much fun together. I taught her 50 tricks using positive reinforcement and body language. I had no idea about what I was doing, I simply tried! We ran around all day long, jumped, climbed, balanced and rested. I even taught her some dressage moves! My dream was to have the same relationship with a horse. Now I have the excact same relationship with Batman, and play with him the same way. He is 600 kg heavier, but the feeling of a true connection to an animal remains the same. It is magic. And for that, I’m forever grateful to my dog, who let me experience it for the first time. Thank you dear Dora!

Batman know the following tricks (in chronological order)

  • Head down
  • “Come here”
  • Park and stay
  • Jambette
  • Lie down
  • Rear
  • Kiss
  • Turn towards me
  • Smile
  • Stand on pedestal
  • Rear
  • Spanish walk
  • Pick up whip
  • Lie down with rider
  • Jambette with rider
  • Play football
  • Shake head

Other liberty basics is not included in the list.

Tricks I want to teach Batman

  • Neigh
  • Count
  • Hold arrows when I’m doing archery
  • Pull arrows out from the target
  • Paint on a canvas
  • Do tricks from a longer distance
  • Lift a sword (not sharp)
  • Hold a shield

So! How did I teach these tricks? I simply praised the wanted behavior when he naturally offered it. Most of the tricks are taught randomly, and many of them taught on rainy and windy days, because Batman’s energy level raises when the weather is chilly. Batman smiles after eating an apple? I added a cue by praising the behavior over and over again, until he connected the cue with the behavior. When you have done this a couple of times, the horse will easier learn new tricks, because it will be more observant of your body language and feel familiar with the procedure. Clicker training makes the horse more curious and attentive is my personal experience.

All of my tricks, except from head down, stand on pedestal and rear (bridle and regular halter for guidance) is taught at liberty.

I use treats when I teach tricks, because that’s an easy way to tell your horse that he did a great job. If you first teach the horse to be polite around you, treats is not a problem, but a helpful tool. But I also use other types of praise, such as:

How I praise Batman

  • Scratching/rub
  • Feeding him bananas, apples, carrots, pellets and treats in general
  • Giving him a break, let him do whatever he wants to
  • Grooming him with a massage brush
  • Vocal praise, such as “good boy!”
  • Ending the session

Batman know the following tricks (in chronological order)

Head down

After a ride, I let the reins down on Batman’s neck, and noticed that he often lowered his head. I then added the vocal cue “ned” (down) and it did not take long before he immediately responded to the word. This trick is the most practical one he know, because it also works as a “reboot”. I always want the horse to be relaxed when I’m around, and when you have a Friesian, which tend to be a bit up in the air sometimes, it is very helpful. Batman is naturally spooky, but became much more down to earth when I started  showed him the earth, 2 meters closer to the ground ;)

“Come here”

Carrots and a large arena. Simple as that. Now, Bat will follow me wherever I go, but it is definitely a good idea to have a cue to bring the horse back to you, especially when doing liberty canter work. Batman first did this in walk, but now does this in canter and trot too.

“Park and stay”

Another basic, but brilliant trick. I can literally park Batman everywhere and leave him there. It is great when you are into driving, or if you are forgetful as I am. I often forget my treats, helmet and so on, and it is nice to park Batman outside the tack room and head back in there. I use this trick on a daily basis. The vocal cue is “stå”, and to reimain standing from longer distance I also uses “bli”. Which means stay, and remain there.


The first “cool” trick I taught Batman! First by lifting my own leg and touching his front leg at the same time. The first time he lifted the front leg, it was just 2 cm, but he got tons of praise for the attempt and I encouraged him to continue. He then tried to lift the leg higher and higher, until we got a jambette. My cue is to point on his shoulder or lift my leg.


Taught from the ground through playing. He once reared when I played with body language and energy a rainy day during spring. It was cold and windy and we was inside the riding arena. He then reared when I moved towards his hindquarters, and I praised him immediately, as I was searching for a way to make him dare to express his energy through rearing. Later the cue had to be perfectionized, which took around a year before I had an okay result. I use the same cue when I ride him, and do not focus on the front legs in the rear at all. All I cared about was the angle and the placement of the hindquarters, I wanted a safe and balanced rear, not a “stiff hind legs, bent back, tense neck, bad balance”-rear.

Lie down

I have already written a very long and detailed blog post about this one, and you can read it here.


I waited a long time with this one, because bringing a huge horses head towards your skull is not a really good idea in the first place. The first step was to teach him to lift his head, and that one was easy, because he already knew to follow my hand. So I simply lifted my arm and praised him when he followed. It took a day or two untill he knew how to kiss me gently on the cheek when I lifted my hand and pointed. I later added a “kissing sound” (haha) so now he will kiss me with a vocal cue. I no longer use my hands. I am glad I waited with this trick, the result is a super gentle and careful horse, and I always gotta ask him twice when I have not done it earlier that day. I recommend this blog post about the trick.


Feed the horse something with a weird taste. Add a cue to the reaction. Simple as that. Batman always smiled when I gave him treats from Sweden actually. I added a vocal cue for this one too, by coincidence! So this one is definitely my weirdest cue ever, it is the sound “uhmmmmmm”. I also think he forgot how to smile, I have not practiced this one in a while.

Stand on pedestal

It is a plus if the horse knows jambette from before. I simply asked Batman for jambette when he stood in front of a hay bale or pedestal, and then he lifted the leg towards the pedestal. When the hoof hit the pedestal, I praised him. I encouraged him to lift the foot higher, until he rested it on the pedestal. The next step is to ask the horse to do the same thing with the other front leg, and walk more towards the object you want it to stand on. The first time Bat did this was in Hällekis in 2012 and he it took me 5 minutes to teach it!

Spanish walk

I taught Bat Spanish walk by asking for a jambette on one leg, run over to the other side, ask for jambette on the other leg, and praise, so he got used to lift them both on shorter intervals. The next step was to be able to ask him to lift the opposite leg with me remaining in the same position, which went well too. Then I started walking slowly forward with him. One step at the time, the Spanish walk started to appear. Practice makes perfect!

Pick up whip

I held the whip in front of Batman, and praised him when he touched it with his muzzle. When he tried to chew on it, I praised him even more, and later he could hold it for a couple of seconds. Then I placed the whip on a chair, and then on the ground.

Play football

Also a result of jambette and Spanish walk. I placed a yoga ball in front of Batman and asked him to lift his front leg, until he touched the ball and pushed it away. I recommend a large ball for tall horses, because Batman’s ball got stuck under his belly a lot. He is a chill horse, but a larger yoga ball is recommended. I then asked him to walk towards the ball and kick it, and later walk after it and kick it again.

Shake head

This is our newest one! During a photoshoot, Batman shook his head to move his forelock, and I taught it looked cool in the photos, so I praised him and added a vocal cue for it. So if you want an action photo on a horse standing still, this is the trick, haha. This behavior is unwanted by many, so be very clear with your cue, or stay away from this trick. It is mostly needed by equestrian Instagrammers with horses that can’t trot or canter at the moment, but are still in need of action photos! ;)

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Six common mistakes to avoid when you are riding bridleless

Riding horses without a bridle or reins, with a so called neckrope or cordeo, is becoming more and more popular. I’m a huge fan of bridleless riding, and think most riders would learn a lot if they ditch the reins every now and then. But riding bridleless is not about simply removing the bridle!

DON’T FORGET TO READ: Bridleless for beginners

We all do mistakes, and that’s natural. Starting to ride bridleless is a journey – and you will be learning every single day. But in the beginning, it can be smart to keep this list in mind to make the process a little bit easier.

1. You are placing your cordeo higher to gain more control

I often see riders pull their neckrope waaay to high and then use it as a pain device to gain control. If you do so, you are so far from soft riding and equal communication as possible. This is an extremely vulnerable part of the horse’s throat! You can actually do damage to the arteries, and other vessels and pipes located in this area almost unprotected. Never place your neckrope higher because it makes the horse easier to ride. The neckrope are supposed to rest on the chest and only be used for seconds at the time, with a light hand. Every tool used wrong can easily be turned into a torture device.

Correctly placed cordeo and the anatomy of the horse’s throat.

2. You are removing the bridle on a horse who is not ready

Riding bridleless is not riding with a cordeo or neckrope, it is about riding with your body and seat as your primary aid, not using the rope to steer with. Simply taking off the bridle of a horse that has always been ridden with reins is dangerous. Learn more about how you can prepare a horse for bridleless riding here.

3. You are pulling the neckrope in frustration

Just because you are without reins, it does not mean that you can’t cause damage. A rope around the horse’s neck is a rope around its neck, so handle it with care. Pulling harder to make your horse stop won’t help. Never use force. Use a bridle with reins for safety and use the reins instead if needed.

cordeo neckrope

4. You are trying to ride in trot or canter before mastering the walk

The first time you are trying to ride without reins should be a shorter session with focus on walk and halt-transitions for light signals. Don’t run around. If you master the walk, you will also master the canter. Focus on the small, important things. Feel how the horse responds to your seat, and praise a lot when he willingly does a good halt for a very light signal. If you spend time in the beginning perfectioning the walk, canter an trot will be easy. If the first thing you do is to gallop around, you will lack a lot of perfection of signals later.

You’ll get to do anything you usually does bridleless as well pretty soon – don’t hesitate in the beginning.

5. You are not inside a safe area

The first times you are trying neckrope without a bridle on for safety, you should be inside an arena or paddock with fences – not on an open field or on a hack. All horses can spook. When you are going outside the arena for the first time – use a bridle with reins and let the reins rest on the horse’s neck. You can pick them up if you need them.

Hacking bridleless is a lot of fun – but behind this photo? Five years of hard, dedicated training.

6. You are constantly giving signals with the neckrope

When you ride with a neckrope, you should only lift the neckrope slightly for a few seconds when you give a signal, and then let it rest on the horse’s neck again. There are no need for having contact at all times. Give your signal, and release. Follow the horse’s movement with your body, and keep attention to its body language. That should be your main focus.

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Do you ride bridleless?

Peace, love and Friesian hugs,
Batman & Matilde

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Up in the clouds

«Anyone can give up; it is the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone would expect you to fall apart, now that is true strength»

I will give you an update about the last week soon. It has been the toughest week of my life, but I will never lose hope. In the meantime, I’m trying to enjoy precious moments like these together with Batman ❤

I appreciate all your kind words and messages. We literally have the entire world backing us. But everything that can really help right now, is for me to find some light in the darkness.


My sunshine, happiness and pride, my beloved horse ✨ Gosh, I love this video of him so much :') He ALWAYS makes me smile.

Posted by on Friday, April 1, 2016